Dear Editor,
My name is Mark Chatupa a youth pastor and a university graduate with a degree in computer science, i want to share this with you today because most of us struggle to choose the right way to live and the right partner to choose, God has graced me in alot areas of ministry and the lord has been using for his glory, a lot of people are prayed for within Zambia and abroad and the lord has been doing wonderful and great things in people’s lives with different status in society, and in ministry, reading books and interaction with a lot of people have to learn in two important areas were a lot of need help and by the grace of God I shall explain some of the things placed upon my life;
Relationships with God
The bible in the book of John 3vs16 says For God so loved the word that he gave his one and only Son, whoever believe in him shall not parish but have eternal life. And the bible says John 3vs3 in reply Jesus declared “I tell you truth, no one can see the kingdom of God unless you are born again. Having a relationship with God starts with receive Jesus Christ us your person savior and starting walking in the path of the light.
Mark Mambwe
Wherever you go, you take you with you, the devil fights you according to who are but not to what you think you are, he has an idea of who are and what God can do through you” job 1” in life as a person you need to know who are cause most of us we don’t know who we are, we just live with an idea of what we can do. Now how do you know who you are? Jeremiah 1vs5 the bible says before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart I appointed you as a prophet to the nations. From the scripture it shows that its God who knows who are and what you are all about, so you need to put an extra effort to know who are by getting to know God through have fellowship and a relationship with God though studying the word and in prayer (Joshua 1vs6-11) being great in life is about the relationship and the fellowship you with God and being successfully in life is about moving in the will of God and fulfilling God’s given purpose.
To know who you are and what you stand for, to be aware of how you are perceived by others and how you present yourself to the world is one of the important aspects of a well-lived life.
Identify what matters most
Your behavior in your public and private moments acts as your life’s billboard, your personal brand. When you are around people, what do they see you in you? Are you are person of great impact or great needs. The greatest impact you make in someone life is to preach to them about Jesus and help them realize their purpose in life. In life important to know what happens most for you to be successful and as a Christian what matter most is having fellowship with God and moving in his will.
Prepare yourself for challenges
Christianity is about a bout fighting, if you think it’s all about blessings then you are lost, Mathew 11v12 says from the days of john the Baptist until now the kingdom of Heaven suffers violence and violence man shall take it by force. As Christian we need to fight a good fight of faith, faith is a spiritual product that come from hearing the word of God, its important us Christian to spend time in the word of God. For you to fight you need to use the word of God 1 Samuel 17 and Ephesians 6vs10-18
Knowing people in your life
The level of maturity determines the people you attract, maturity is the ability to understand the will of God upon you life and will of God by refusing your own will to be done, and you tell how mature someone is based on how they react to situations/challenges. Sometimes there is a vast different from who we project to be and who we are really are. Amos 3vs3 the says do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so and 1 Corinthians 15vs33 says do not be mislead bad company corrupts good character. The people we keep around us affects the kind of person we are, mind the company you keep because it either they shall build you or destroy you, if a person doesn’t help you get to know God, distance yourself from them because they shall help you go to HELL.
You are the leader of your life
Leaders draw attention to themselves in the things they say and do because they intend to think and act differently. The problem have found with a lot of people is letting go, we need to let go of pass failure mistakes disappoints and people we have lost and that have brought pain to our lives. 1 john 2vs19
Choosing your life partner
Genesis 2vs 18 The LORD God said “it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper to suitable him. Choosing a right partner starts with you having a relationship with God and praying that God should help you be with the partner because the person we decide to be with has a major role to play in our life and our future. So don’t just choose because your friends have told you, you are lonely, how old you age and marriage is not just about Sex and having kids but marriage is about God fulfilling a purpose in your lives. God made marriage to a sol
ution not a problem, it’s became a problem when you
decided to be with a wrong person. Like uncle always told me to pray
before you find someone to be with.
The R&D before the relationship
Every relationship to be a success should start with having a strong foundation based on Godly principles, strong happy relationship are those were both partners have a strong relationship and fellowship with God, many of us mindlessly enter into something as important as a relationship with little thought to the fundamental requirements we need to be happy. Entering into a relationship without securing important data about the other person is like driving down the road wearing a blindfold-self imposed sightlessness. Blindness leaves us very vulnerable, yet people every day getting married to people whom they little real knowledge. You can only know the detailed information if you are the person who is seeking God in truth and in spirit about your partner.
The confidence factor
A man looks to marry a woman who loves him not a woman, who loves the idea of getting married. Many people get married to share expenses or raise children, but when financial situations change, and children grow up and leave home, there is nothing keeping the pair together. When you are considering entering into a lifelong commitment like marriage, you have to decide if you want to be with person in holistic terms or settle for someone simply to satisfy only part of your needs. Sometime we get focused on the other person and what they need that we give little consideration to what they offer us. Love is about the other person and what you can contribute to their life. We are each created in God’s complete and divine image, be confident in that fact. There is a misconception that marriage is fifty-fifty, in fact marriage is a one hundred-one hundred deal. It demands both parties to bring on hundred percent of who they are and what they can offer to the relationship. It is complement, not completement the result in a successful marriage. We should work to enhance each other’s strengths, not compensate for someone else’s weakness.
Mark Mambwe Chatupa