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Mirriam Mushetu
For 18 years, Mirriam Mushetu sold sex for a living, sleeping with up to seven men a day and making more than K1,000 per day.
And Mushetu says, “Thanks to God I am still alive and for making me meet a man who fell in love with me despite knowing my past.”
Mushetu says she did not even like using condoms because she wanted to charge more.
For Mushetu, it was a hard toil making money as a sex worker but even harder toil the price she had to pay after testing positive for HIV.
She now wants others to learn from her mistakes.
“I was only 15 when I got into prostitution and only realised 18 years later that I was HIV positive,” she says.
Mushetu says as a sex worker, she never believed HIV and AIDS existed and never thought the death of her two children could have been because of the virus.
“I once suffered from syphilis. It got me down. I had it when I was in Kapiri and I hated the town and left after one month for Lusaka. But after I was given 15 injections, I was back on my feet and well I thought that was a bad disease and I survived it, so I thought even AIDS was just another disease,” she says.
Mushetu, 40 explains that she got into prostitution when she was in Grade Seven.
Mushetu says she never cared whether a client used a condom or not.
“Actually I preferred live sex. I never believed in AIDS. With live sex, I would demand more money and that is what I was after – money,” she says.
She explains that her normal charge was K100 with a condom and K150 to K200 without one.
“I never did long term. I was short term. I would sleep with about seven men and the most I made in one night was K1,300,” she says.
Mushetu explains that after sleeping with a client, she would wash her private parts with Mosi Lager.
“Almost all ‘hules’ (sex workers) know the secret is Mosi. We use it to wash down there and you will not only feel fresh, but will become normal again. Men cannot even tell that you have been with another man,” she explains.
Mushetu says she entered a life of prostitution after she lost her parents in an accident.
“When we were in school, my friends used to have nice things and I started to admire, ‘ulukumbwa’. That was what drove me to prostitution,” she says.
According to Mushetu, she decided to move in with friends who were being supported by a ‘queen mother’.
Mushetu explains that she will never forget her first client because the experience still brings tears to her eyes.
“I was not a virgin but I had only had sex with a fellow school-mate. However, my first client was so big and rough, I actually bled. He hurt me a lot and did not care. At the end of it, he threw money on the mattress and left,” she says with visible resentment.
Mushetu says the night with her ‘first client’ marked the beginning of her life as a prostitute.
She then travelled from Mwinilunga to Solwezi and later found her way into Chingola where she moved with truck drivers.
“My destination was then in the fate of the truck drivers. Wherever he is going was where I would go. They offered me a bed and money and that was all I needed,” Mushetu says.
She says the drivers knew her profession and would let her go about her business but when she got back, she would have to sleep with them as well.
Mushetu explains that she was arrested on many occasions but the police would either charge her or sleep with her as payment in kind.
She says life was difficult because some men would use her and refuse to pay. Others would even beat her.
“We were five girls in total and queen mother used to bring us men. After the men finished with us, they would pay us and we would give the money to queen mother, who would then give us something each,” she says.
In Lusaka, Mushetu says she plied her trade around Northmead Shopping Centre where Tasinta reached out to her.
This non-profit group helps sex workers reform their lives using a positive, nonjudgmental approach.
Mushetu says after being shown various arts and craft, undergoing psychotherapy and testing positive for HIV, she decided to quit prostitution.
“It was not easy but Tasinta made it possible for me. They offered counselling and moved me from where I was staying. They started paying for a one room home for me and I became very interested in tailoring,” she says.
Mushetu thanks God she met a man who fell in love with her despite knowing about her past.
She has now been happily married for 14 months.
“From the start I told him of my previous profession and I told him of my status. He said it was the honesty that made him love me more,” she says shyly.
She urges women involved in prostitution to abandon the vice.
“Prostitution has nothing but death. Money is a devil, you will die for money. There is nothing in prostitution but an early death,” Mushetu says, close to tears.
She wants men to stay away from sex workers because most women engaged in the vice do not know their HIV status.
“I only knew my status 18 years later. I have no idea when I contracted it or who I passed it onto. I thank God I am responding positively to my drugs and like you noticed, I do not even look sick at all,” Mushetu says.
Mushetu thanks Tasinta for its mentorship as the organisation has not only saved her life but helped her find love.
Tasinta programme officer Lucy Bwalya says the organisation’s biggest challenge is funding.
Bwalya says lack of funding has stalled some Tasinta programmes, but thanks current donors who have made it possible for the organisation to currently be mentoring 60 women.
“We are doing much better thanks to Hivos, NGOCC and the Global Fund, but more can be done and we wish we could have more funding,” she says.
Another challenge she says is that some parents are actually pushing their children into prostitution.
“There is a woman in Garden compound whom we recruited but her own mother said she never wanted Tasinta near her daughter because they were stopping her from making money,” says Bwalya.